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  1. Does it not depend on the question asked ” Hey, I want to come to your country, we won’t be happy here in the Philippines, it is such a poor place you will not be happy here”, Filipinas get very lonely in other countries, because they miss the family, miss their friends, miss the foods and in some cases even miss the weather…

  2. Henry , I have seen both sides . Here in Hawaii there is a huge Filipino community . I have quite a few friends that married Filipina from there . One got married 10 years ago and still going , another 3 years ago and like you said she succumbed to temptation . Another 1 year so far and well lets see .  Like you said I believe its all in the community she hooks up with and her real intentions in the first place . My story will follow  as I am just getting started with the k-1 process . P.s> known her for years and have spent plenty of time there together traveling the Philippines .  Best of luck to everyone . Thanks again Aloha

  3. I used to feel that it was somewhat insulting to Filipinas that so many guys think that if an older guy brings a younger Filipina wife back to your Western nation that she will be tempted to be disloyal to you and look for a younger and wealthier guy because she is a “hot commodity” in your country. ¬† I am beginning to realize that this is just a fact of life, and, of course the single foreigner in Phils is the “hot commodity”. ¬†Here is an example of the tables being turned. ¬†As my friend Kevin and I waited at NAIA for our flight back to the US, we began chatting with a young, (mid-twenties), reasonably attractive,
    ¬†white, American woman who was traveling by herself. ¬† It turned out that her parents were working on contract for am American company in Phils. ¬†She was telling us how much she enjoyed the Phils and the Filipino people, and lamenting that her American fianc√© could not have joined her on the trip, but he could not get off work for that length of time, but maybe could join her on her next trip. ¬†Kevin and I AUTOMATICLLY, and almost in unison said, “No, do not under any circumstances let you finance come to the Phils until after you are married, or you may never get married to him”. ¬†She instantly understood what we saying and why we warned her.

  4. My Filipina wife and I have been married for 11 yrs now, we had an 8 month online relationship, before I flew to¬†Dumaguete to meet her,¬†waited almost a yr¬†for the fianc√© visa to be approved, because of 911,¬†and were living here in the states very happy, she is 23 yrs younger than me. I know at least¬†25 couples here where we live and only two have failed, one I knew right away wasn’t going to last because of how flirty she was, the other got into the bar scene and that was their undoing. Most of my wifes friends come from familys with good family values, most are very polite, loving, responsible women. I plan on retiring in 3 yrs, at which time we will spend 6 months here and 6 months there, and while I get a lot of attention from women when were in Dumaguete, I would never even consider cheating on her, nor her on me while were here. So I guess my advice to guys looking¬†for a Filipina wife or girlfriend would be to get to know her, don’t rush¬†it, I talked to many girls online before I met my wife, but when I met her, I knew she was the one after only a couple of weeks of talking to her.

    1. i read a lot of comments here !!! i want to share my story too im a filipina currently working as domestic helper in singapore, i have 3 kids ,i work here for almost 10 yrs bcz i need to support them i force my self to go abroad bcz of my eresponsible and drug addict husband i suffer too much …… for 10 yrs idont even try to have a bf here, just 2 mnths ago theres a guy friend request me in fb he is frm uk he 35 yrs and im 39 then he started to talk to me as he told me he is looking a lifetime partner, i told him about my personal life and story of my past life, everday we chat and skyping he fall in love with me…..but untill now im not sure if he really inlove with me ? bcz i always think that no one wants me anymore bcz ihave a kids…… but i realy fall inlove with him i want to change my life and i want to have a loving and responsible husband…….

  5. To break a pre nup three vital questions will be asked by a cunning lawyer…..” When was the pre nup signed” ” where was the pre nup signed” and lastly under what conditions the pre nup was signed. Please tell your friend to do his due diligence

  6. Fed govt gives each state financial incentives for the amount of monies collected from child support.. Alimony.. Pay check garnishment etc. due your due diligence

  7. My two cents…¬† I have been to the Philippines six times for extended visits.¬† All were to meet and greet filipinas I had met online.¬† To date I have married two of them, dated scores and imported four on visas of one kind or another.¬† All the fun and all the horrors have been had by me.¬† My sole advice from me at this point is, ” look at the family”.¬† Are they good, are they successful, are they sincere, are they educated, are they Christian?¬† Skip everything else until you have met the family.¬† Spend time with them and bond with them.¬† Get the father and mother’s blessing before you proceed on marrying anyone.¬† Talk to her friends, relatives and acquaintances.

  8. Been lurking on your page, and can I just say that I’m learning a lot from all your posts? :)I was only looking for beautiful sites in Dumaguete when I first landed in your page. I saw your relationship tips and it got me interested. I was talking to an American before, but it didn’t work out well. A Dutch friend steps in and we’re now having the best time of our lives. ūüôā we’re planning to settle down soon. I’m 30 yrs old and I’m glad you emphasized that aspect as well. Hahaha. I agree about a Filipina being an ‘item’ when she travels abroad. I got really overwhelmed with the attention thrown at me back then. I was 25 then, single, and naive. It was just for a short vacation. ūüôā Anyways, right now, my bf and I are also contemplating about the career that is waiting for me in the country that we will be choosing to settle in soon. I’m currently working as a bank officer here in Manila. My bf has been very supportive to me about my career. I also informed him about my fear. I mean, yeah, I got Masters degree but we know the difference of the educational system between the Philippines and the Netherlands. I dunno the equivalent of my degree there. But then he works there and is making big there as well. So that’s really what we’ve been talking about right now. As of now, we are happy seeing each other every other three months. Soon we will finally come out with the right decision. ūüôā

  9. Sorry to hear that some filipina did it that way. But bear in your mind men that not all filipina are like that. The woman trully loves you will stick around no matter what through thick and thin. And why man afraid to get marry filipina gf and afraid to bring in the US, it simply because man don’t trust the woman.

  10. So true Henry, and I know a beautiful young girl married to an engineer successful man with big house I won’t tell you where they are from the state but they had a new born boy can you imagine how this man felt and the bad part is she went out with my brother I say bad part because I felt sorry for the man. I wanted no part of the relationship/cheating with my brother it was terrible I even warn my brother to leave her alone she is married with a child I told my brother don’t you feel guilty. But it continued later on it was the reason for their divorce.

  11. The biggest problem of having to deal with a filipina girl when they are brought to a new country is that they learn all the tricks of the western girls and let me tell you once they do there is just no stopping the inevitable. They learn that it is ok to get divorce and that divorce is just too common thing to do for western girls and that being divorce/getting divorce doesn’t mean and it is the end for them matter of fact they learn it is a new beginning for them specifically when they are young.

  12. But it doesn’t mean there are no exception to the matter. Like you say I do know quite a lot of couple that are going strong for a long time. For those who are thinking about bringing their girl here just heads up there are a lot maybe even insurmountable amount of bad influence for you to look out for.

  13. 0-2 this is the record for 2 of my friends that married a filipina then moved to the states. I would rather stay there because its to much of a change in lifestyle for her in the states. Although staying in the phillipines then dealing with her families problems can become a burden. Just my opinion. Its kinda a double edge sword.

  14. Well I’ve been married to my Malaysian Chinese wife for the last 14 years and we’ve been able to call Malaysia and the USA home. We have a home in Malaysia and the USA. It takes some time to get used to the different culture, food, accommodations etc. But it’s worth it. So this applies anywhere in Asia be it Philippines or somewhere else.

  15. Thanks for helping me choosing the good one for me ! I am a french Canadian and have been to Philippines twice already and still have not found the good one yet, but with your good advices, it will help me a lot for the next time i will go there. I am thinking the best way is just like you said…Take time for knowing each other in good and bad situation. When i go there to meet someone, i stay with that same person for one month and try to put us in many different situations (on stress, getting drunk, see how she reacts…) if everything goes fine with each other, i come back again , but go together in another asian country (Thailand, China, Laos…etc) again for one month. Then i guess you will really find out if she is THE GOOD ONE FOR YOU ! Your making great videos ! Thanks so much Henry !

  16. I was contacted by a Filipina on tagged dot com, she was 38 with 4 grown kids i was 48 she said she had an annulent fro their father who had remarried in dubai,  I flew to Luzon fro u.s. after we had been skyping for a couple of months, spent tie 3 weeks with her and was bewildered why she did not want me to meet her family which I eventually demanded that if we are going to go anywhere with this relationship then that ust happen so it did my last week there.  also she admitted she had been also married to an american a year before we met and that also was annulled (come to find out that annulent was not recognized in the Philippines and that she was still a married woman as far as the Philippines was concerned even though he legally divorced her when he flew back to America. I spent 3500 on helping her get her annulent and 2 years later after hearing another lie fro her  (the 4 yr old niece was not a niece but her child I called it all off.  she lied to me many times, needed things, wanted  me to bring ONLY her to u.s. and leave child and would not accept me coming there to be living there with her.  she just wanted to get out of her country.  I met a Filipina here that is already here and is much nicer to me.  deception is like a way of life in the Philippines for many and they say the word money a hell of a lot.

  17. hi
    been married 9 . we live in the uk. its been good it depends on the individual character. i think like you you need to understand the person, its very individual as you say

  18. Thanks for sharing your story Henry.my bf soon to be husband introduced me to your vids which is very helpful to us..me being a filipina and he american.we plan to visit you once we settled here in phils. Great video you posted.

  19. Hi, thanks very much for a very interesting video, I am at a stage where I scoop up every bit of info I can get on the Philippines. As I mentioned to you before I plan to visit a friend with whom I have been Skypeing for nearly 2 years now I plan to visit him later this year for about 2 weeks, and get as much travel in as possible! I hope to hear from you soon, keep it up with the great videos! Regards, johan

  20. Fortunately I have a wife with a good support system, mature at 35, and that I knew for 3 years before we married. So having to split the year between USA and Philippines isn’t as risky as it would be for others. I do look forward to eventually being in the Phils permanently,but for now it is a work in progress. It was difficult to leave her each year,but with the birth of our son it is soo much harder now. Unfortunately i am far from rich and am not an internet entrepreneur so it will take some work …….

  21. we’re planning on moving to the Philippines next March to live in Ormoc in Leyte. You may or may not know this, but Ormoc is kind of an independent city NOT subject to the laws of the province of Leyte. The laws and regulations there are pretty different than the rest of Leyte.

    1. Still living in Ormoc? What are the differences with the city and the Leyte province? Just returned from an 8 week visit, with 2.5 weks at GF’s parents home in Sitio Katambisan. I hope to meet some expats when I return.

  22. I married my ex Filipina wife in my home country (Belgium) and now I’m happy I did. ¬†I would strongly advise any foreigner against marrying in the Philippines, because their law doesn’t allow divorce. ¬†You can get an annulment, but this is a very difficult, expensive and long-term procedure, involving several trips to the Philippines and spending a lot of money on Philippine attorneys who may or may not be reliable. ¬†If you marry in your home country you fall under the divorce law of that country. ¬†The first two years of my marriage I had a dream wife. ¬†She was very loving and caring. ¬†It all started going wrong when she found out that there is a weekly mass in Tagalog in my home town. ¬†She started going there and that’s where she met the wrong people. ¬†Of course there are many nice Filipinas in that church, but probably just as many who had a bad influence on my wife. ¬†There are many adultorous women, some of them are into prostitution, others into drug dealing. ¬†But they are oh so Catholic! ¬†As I live in Antwerp – one of the foremost European harbour cities – we get a lot of ships with Filipino seamen. ¬†Very informally, a network developed of Filipinas boarding those ships to “entertain” (I don’t want to use four-letter-words) their compatriots who are far away from their wifes. ¬†Strangely enough, they don’t seem to see the harm in it and they earn some extra money, presents or even plane tickets to the Philippines so they can also entertain them there when they go home to their wifes (you’ve heard that right!). ¬†It just takes one Filipina who takes your wife to one of those ships and your sweet, devoted Filipina wife may become a hooker. ¬†That’s what happened to mine and that’s why I divorced her. ¬†Over the years I met people from other Belgian provinces and their wifes, That’s how I found out that the Filipinas from Antwerp have a bad reputation among the other Filipinas in Belgium. ¬†I recognise a lot of what you said in this video and you are right: bringing a Filipina to your home country entails a much higher risk than moving to the Philippines and marrying a Filipina there. ¬†Only remember that, if things do go wrong, you are going to have much more trouble dissolving a marriage that was made in the Philippines. ¬†But wherever you’re marrying her, be aware that you are buying a lottery ticket. ¬†Marriages never come with a guarantee and many people who marry a citizen of their own country also have bad luck. ¬†Always be prepared for the worst case scenario and talk to as many people as possible who preceeded you before tying the knod!

  23. I have a bad experience with an Indonesian woman, when the Bible says, a Man should leave his Mother and Father and cling to his wife, and a wife needs her family, be wise, decide I advance your now going to live in the Philippines and learn to be Happy!!!!

  24. I think you make some very valid points, and would love to see researched statistics to prove the point. My wild guesstimate is that success rate of expat/Filipina marriages when they stay in the Philippines would be something like 80-90% against 40-50% when they move to the expats home country. My definition of successful marriage being they remain (happily) married for 7 years plus. I think it’s also realistic to say that the larger the age disparity between the couple the less likely success and happiness will be found in the Expats home country whereas in The Philippines this is much less of an issue.

  25. I feel comfortable in the Philippines – so the “problem” is solved. I made once the mistake to bring a wife to my country in Europe (16 years) and it ended in disaster.

  26. Thank you so much for putting things in perspective. You don’t know how much I appreciate your insights into living the expat lifestyle. I am involved with a Phillipina online I plan on visiting the Philippines shortly to check her and her family out. I will definitely compile and and be mindful of the many points you have made, I will also come by and visit you in your town. Thanks bud.

  27. Simple maths…don`t bring them back to stay in the US/EU especially if she`s under 26/30 years and hot looking.She will cheat thats just the way they are! Let here be close to here family back in the phills.

  28. Hi Henry, my wife is only a couple years younger than i , i married her 4 yrs ago and she lives with me in australia with our now 3 yr old son.We have had our language barrier problems and issues,but i do believe she has a strong family belief and would never be a bad apple, but just a week ago after she went to church with our son and  she never returned home. We had a serious argument the night before over money issues and and speaking to her pastor i do believe this is the main reason for her worries and why i have not heard from her or know where she is except the fact the pastor has told me they are in a hostel run by the government.Some anonymous person has put her there and im not happy about that bcs she did not ge my side of the story b4 involving the government. Anyhow if you or any subscriber have advice i would much appreciate it.I am following up with the pastor and i do consider him a friend

    1. @Anthony Jackson perhaps one place to start would be with a lawyer to see if you can petition for child visitation. this might give you a chance to speak with her and work this out. it sounds like someone has been whispering in her ear that she’d be better off finding someone else. from what you say, she seemed fine until the money issue came up. for her to make such an abrupt, drastic move.. someone is coaching her along. i’d say, get an attorney’s advice on how you can see your child again.

  29. Love your videos Henry! ¬†A good friend of mine is considering bringing his Filipina girlfriend back to America and I’m really afraid for him. ¬†He is ex-military and retired so he has the option of living in Asia. ¬†I suggested Malaysia since it is a more conservative culture and affordable.

  30. Malaysia is a majority Muslim country and the Philippines is a majority Catholic country. 

    I’m not sure if that matters to your friend.

  31. Been married to a Cebuana (from the province)  for 35 years now and living that whole time in the US. She has been wonderful. The only real problem is that my house is becoming a thrift store for stuff to send to to Philippines. One can never have enough shoes you know.

  32. Filipinas who come to the US or other western countries usually have an expectation of getting rich and using those new found riches to improve her family’s economic situation back in the Philippines. In her mind, this is a very normal, realistic goal and is to be expected of a man living and working in a developed western country. This is an important part of her personal agenda as it relates to the marriage and her western husband should be warned that being a good husband may require fulfilling those expectations, at least to some degree, or she may become disappointed and disillusioned with ¬†the marriage. Its not necessarily a sinister plan on her part to leave her husband once she arrives in his country and gets her citizenship, but simply a result of her perception that the marriage did not live up to her expectations. This is based on my experiences dating and socializing with many filipina women in US and Philippines.

  33. Hello, Well said.¬† Married to a Filipina¬†11 years here in USA,, Been through everything you said, Other Filippinas tried to get her away from me many , many times. When a Filippina falls for the talk of why u with the old man an leaves him, they always realize they made a mistake, But the guys don’t take them back.

  34. It depends to a guy how to approach a filipina woman but you should probably get not so young girls cuz thier heart is not mature to settle down, they can easily fall for the other guys when you’re way too old for them. One thing you can win the filipina heart is being a caring person not only thinking about your self cuz pinays like to be care and caress and you can feel if they’re genuine if they care about you back. You can notice a filipina if he’s asking you to buy this and that then they’re not serious in relationship only but you’re just a walking wallet to them. In the Philippines everywhere has the ears if someone sees you with other girls then that person will talk about like * oh i’ve seen him with someone girl last day* so then the girl wouldn’t take you seriously but only your pocket. Start with being friends no string attache talk a simple thing everyday, try to have a stroll in the park or take a coffee break, in that way you can also see the other side of the person.

  35. “Once Married, Choosing Where to Put Down Roots”: ¬† Now, you got it Henry! ¬†I agree with you 100%, only differing in the percentage of unfaithfulness. ¬†I’m here to tell you, in the majority of cases, young Filipinas are not faithful to their husbands, upon reaching the 1st World country.

  36. I’m curious. ¬†How are you able to sustain yourself in the RP? ¬†From the above commentary, it appears that at one time you were deeply in debt. ¬†How were you able to dig yourself out, with enough left over to settle in the RP?

    1. @Ronald Mandell, MAJ, USAR back in 2007 i was heavy in debt (about $70,000). i negotiated it down to about $37,000 and was able to pay it off. since then i’ve been staying debt free. by mid 2012 i was then finally able to make the move to the PH.

  37. I’m a younger American guy (29) Do you think the possibility of her straying would be significantly reduced, all other things being equal?¬† Obviously it depends on the woman, but just in general.¬† Assuming she is in her early or mid 20s.

    1. @87thekang the idea of her straying is probably a smaller issue than the idea she will have that a younger man is usually considered “a cheating risk”. in other words, the perception by and large seems to be that they view younger men as still wanting to “sow their oats” before settling down and thus, less reliable. every woman is different, of course, but by and large that is the perception here. expect jealousy and suspicion because as a younger man, she likely already has it in her mind your playboy days are still not over. you’ll have to convince her otherwise.

  38. hello    henry, well I was the stepping stone, just got used I guess, but she left  me to soon, she got nothing out of the marriage, I learned a good lesson, but came out of it o.k., still I love the Philippines and the people, will retire there soon at 63, but I will not  and I repeat  will not ever take one back to the usa, , that is only trouble , wish you luck man , take care

    1. @Buddy Phelps i hear ya. but i’m glad you aren’t bitter on filipinas. there are some wonderful ones here. but i think the whole materialistic ‘dream’ of the west is too much for many of them to handle. ūüôĀ

  39. All good advise,I married a pageant girl ,she was a looker can not even count how many traffic accidents she caused just walking down the street,, she turned heads of men every where she went.
    We had a good relationship she was my best friend,The marriage ended so.fast and so badly., She got a illegal divorce. took all of our savings,charged 60K on all our credit cards.
    Even her family whom i was very close too is ashamed by the changes and choices she made..
    I accepted and expected she would change, she was 20 when we married since i am not the same man I was at 20 no one in there right mind.would not expect these changes.
    I come from a small town in North Carolina, The long term marriages, I have seen are those with wife’s that are not Catholic wife’s so it would seem born again Christian woman, take there marriage vows of death due we part more.seriously…
    Hell a Filipino Catholic priest drove my work truck away.from my house as well.
    Not saying i do not know some really good Catholic people.just that all expat i know who have Catholic wives the marriage failed..
    Accept one of my childhood friends and he married a bar girl, both cheat on the other but there marriage is good for the both of them,
    While there are no guarantee’s in this life, I can guarantee a young woman from any 3rd world country is going to change a great deal in the USA for better or worst.
    I sure would not bring anther one here as the chances of success is not as good.as if you live there

    1. @LifeBeyondTheSea – Philippines Thanks Henry your advise and suggestions are right.
      The places one could maybe have better luck are your home State of California or Washington State.
      These two States have the most Filipino”s with some very large Filipino community’s
      Support groups like Maganak may also help.Ray Bacon owns this site and always gave good advise.
      http://www.mag-anak.org/
       mag-anak-owner@yahoogroups.com
      Good luck to all who want bring a woman here, they are going to need it

    2. @steve o i do agree with you, with one caveat. there is a higher rate of young, ‘loving’ filipinas who suddenly absorb the outlook of their embitterd, divorced, western women abroad and become somewhat mercenary in just a few years or less. they become materialistic and you become the ‘asset’ they end up draining and leaving behind. my consistent suggestion has been to stay in the PH where they are held a bit more accountable. nothing in life is 100%, but taking a good woman into a westernized country most often ends badly.

  40. hello  henry  well you sure hit the nail on the head about the stepping stone, I was one but came out pretty good, she left to soon and did not get anything , other than a free divorce, I love the Philippines and will go back to retire, hope to find a nice older lady to live with in province, have 2k in retirement per month, should do good, I was burnt  Рbut not bitter, take care, like your video,s

    1. +Buddy Phelps at least you learned the lesson without getting totally gutted, a bit wiser now. better prepared for the next rodeo. ūüôā

  41. Great post Henry, in spite of the fact that I had NO intention of letting the future wife anywhere near the US nor, if I can avoid it, a westernized woman. To the ladies reading this Go ahead and scream bloody murder. I DON’T CARE.

  42. I enjoyed your video, very informing and true. Having dated several filipinas in USA and chatting online, I have heard and seen the very good and the very bad about filipinas and their husbands. Alot of filipinas do change when coming to USA. To go from next to nothing living in a province to having everything when coming to USA is a big challenge and the temptation is enormous. Foreigners who marry a filipina and have a huge age difference needs to know that.

    1. @LifeBeyondTheSea – Philippines
      Looking at some profiles on a dating site, a lot of them seem to make it clear. They explicitly say that they have never had a boyfriend, that they “fear God”, and want someone with similar values that won’t waste their time. I would definitely put them at the top of the list.

    2. +wnc817 not entirely true as a rule. some girls are virgins simply because of their age. they may be 18 and simply haven’t started being sexually active yet, but their personality can be very unstable and immature. not even close to being ready for a real relationship. while others are virgins due to their upbringing, and choice. as incredible as some may find it to believe, there are filipinas in their 20’s who are still virgins. they want to avoid the single-mom baby trap of poverty cycle and focus on education or working abroad. the women who are virgins.. by choice, are the ones who are more likely to be mature and ready for a relationship. but younger, 18 year old girls.. many just haven’t had the opportunity to slip out of their parent’s house yet.

  43. Good day Henry, Very well put I enjoyed this video as well as the others.. This one was very informative and it gave me some things to think about and consider. When I get to Davao I will be looking forward to meet you…Take care..

  44. This is one of the best and most encouraging vids you’ve done. Especially for us guys who intend on moving there for good… I can’t wait to get there… One question… do you think it is better moving there unfettered and go “hunting” in your new environment or hook up online before you go. I would like to have a “tour guide” friend when I touch down but I am sure I could obtain one very quickly when I get there… Hmmm….

    1. +David Pike Hi, Dave! I would not try to get something going with a Filipina before going to the RP. I would wait until you arrive. If you meet someone on line first, you will undoubtedly meet other Filipinos you are more attracted to within a week or three after you arrive.

      A thing to be aware of is that no good girl, if that’s what you are looking for, will go out with you, nor more than shake hands with you, if you do not court them first. The problem is that courtship in the RP bears no resemblance to courtship in the West. First off, a girl is not allowed to go out with you, or have any relationship until she is officially your “girlfriend”. Secondly, a good girl will never become your girlfriend until you “propose” to them.

      “Proposing” means telling the girl directly that you “love” her, and that you want her to be your “girlfriend”. Remember that in the RP, all love is “love at first sight”. There is no other kind of love, and there is no reason to date a girl, or have anything to do with her, unless you love her. That’s the culture. Love comes before dating, or hanging out at all. Since all love is love at first sight there is no reason to wait for weeks before a guy tells a girl that he loves her and wants her to be his girlfriend. A guy that waits more than a few days before telling a girl that he loves her, is obviously a very insincere guy, in Fil culture. The thought process is, “Obviously, if he REALLY loved her, he would have told the girl immediately.”

      So, here’s how it goes. A Filipino guy meets a girl whom he wants. He immediately tells her on the first meeting that he, “has a crush” on her. At the second or third meeting, he tells her that he, “loves”, and wants her to be his girlfriend. From that day forward, the guy begs the girl everyday to be his girlfriend, telling her over and over how much he loves her. He tells her that she is the girl of his dreams, that he loves her nose, her cheeks, her eyes, her ears, her lips, her hair, her throat, he toes, etc., etc., etc. He tells her that he cannot live without her, that he will commit suicide if he cannot have her, and he cries in front of her to show his “true” devotion. Of course, its all very insincere, and dramatic, but Filipinos love drama, more than anything else in the world.

      Seldom does the guy “love” the girl of course. He merely wants to get her into bed, and impregnate her, but the point is that the girl fully expects the above to occur exactly as I have described it. Nothing else will have any impact upon a Filipino. I “like” you will not come near cutting it with a Filipino. “Like means nothing at all to a Filipina’s ear. I “care for you” means nothing to a Filipina either. Only “I love you” registers as, “I like you” does in the West.

      Now, you must also understand that since, “I love you” means, “I care for you”, the word “Love” carries no more obligation for the guy than the word, “like” does in the West. It does not mean that “I will care for you”. It does not mean that,” I will take care of you”. It does not mean that, “I will remain your boyfriend for a year, six months, or even a week.” It does not mean that, “I will take any responsibility or keep any if my promises.” To the Filipino male, it means simply that I have lust for you and would like to get you in the sack.

      Another part of the courtship is telling the girl all kinds of lies concerning how wealthy the guy’s family is, the land they own, the education the guy has, the things he is going to buy the girl, etc. (You can skip that part, since telling her the truth concerning what you have to offer is probably more than any Fil guy can lie about.

      The longer a girl can hold out, without saying, “Yes” to a guy, the more honor she gains. At the same time, since it is universally believed in the RP that females out number males, three to one, a girl cannot afford to wait too long. Also, it must be remembered that it is the belief in the RP that if a girl does not married before the age of 25, she is no longer marriageable. Its actually true, since why would any guy want an older woman of 25, which he can easily have one of 17, 18 or 19?

      For her part, once the girl says, “Yes”, the guy owns them. He can break up with them anytime, even the next day, but she has no right to break up with him, there. fore, he can treat her in any manner he desires.

      A boyfriend will also very often tell the girl how she will dress from now on, even while in her parents home. He will also often tell you that she is forbidden to leave her house unless its with himself. Thus she can no longer accompany her mother across the street to the market. He is her master.

      Usually, the very first thing a guy will tell his new girlfriend is to hop into a taxi with him. She has no right to know where they are going. Naturally, the taxi ends up at a cheap motel, where she has no choice but to go along with his wishes. Since guys never use protection in the RP (being that the more children a guy has, the bigger his fame), and since Filipinos are much more fertile than Westerners, the girl very often becomes pregnant that first time, in which case the guy will continue to get down with her until the child arrives, then disappear to find another girl who does not have sagging breasts, horrible stretch marks, and is not stretched out in that vital area of pleasure.

      There are no child support laws in the RP, and guys are brought to feel absolutely no sense of responsibility for anything they do. Self motivation to support their offspring does not exist. Filipino culture dictations that that is the female’s problem.

      Unbelievably, I met many Americans and other Westerners who were never able to get a “good girl” girlfriend after even years living in the RP, simply because they had never asked a Filipino guy how courtship is conducted there.

      I learned from my maid. . . “One day, I told her that I could not understand why “Cristy” would not go out with me, when it was perfectly obvious to me that she greatly liked me. My maid then asked, “What did she say when you told her you loved her?”. When I told her than I had never told her that I loved her, she asked me why not. I replied that I didn’t love her, I just “liked” her. My maid then immediately asked me why I would want to be with Cristy in the first place if I did not love her. . . Following that, I got the full education. The following day, I told Cristy that I loved her, and asked her to be my girlfriend. She immediately said, “Yes”, and the rest was history. After that, I was able to get any girl I wanted, anytime, anywhere.

    2. +LifeBeyondTheSea – Philippines Sounds like Nirvana! I can’t wait to get there… Thanks for your responses Ricardo! I have seen your “business” explode over the years… Awesome job! and your one on one Skype service is a great idea and wonderful service for us old codgers… ūüėČ I will bend your ear for an hour when I am ready to make the move… Thanks again Rick. Your performing a great service here… ūüôā

    3. +David Pike i’ve found that (finally) there is a place (PH) where you can walk down the street or in any mall, be courteous and introduce yourself to the prettiest girl in eyesight and 99% of the time, have dinner with her that evening. like i said before, no need for games or weirdness. women love a nice guy here.

    4. +LifeBeyondTheSea – Philippines Thanks Bud! I think I’ll just sghut down that website and just show up! If I were to commit before I even got there would chain me and then I have to mover “her” to where I intend to be (Tagaytay) etc. I think I’ll just trust my instincts and just wait till I am settled and then check out the local fauna… ūüėČ Thanks again Vato…;)

    5. +David Pike without a doubt, arriving as a ‘free agent’ with no commitments is the way to make most of the PH. it’s nothing like ‘back home’ (scarcity). this is the land of plenty when it comes to available, wonderful women. making plans with a filipina online prior to arrival really ends up being a huge limitation. once guys see how things work here, they regret the whole half-relationship they started online before arriving.

  45. this is one of your best ! The type of informative video that you want to watch again. You are the #1 go to guy for anybody thinking about going to the Philippines.

  46. I would not try to get something going with a Filipina before going to the RP. I would wait until you arrive. If you meet someone on line first, you will undoubtedly meet other Filipinas you are more attracted to within a week or three after you arrive.

    A thing to be very much aware of is that courtship in nowhere never like it is in the West. There are some definite rules and protocols which must be followed in other to win a “good girl. Warning: This does not apply to bargirls, only to “good girls”.

    First off, let me start out with a personal story: After living in the RP, as a contract school teacher for about six months, I one day chanced to say to my maid, “I’m so frustrated! I have been seeing this girl named Cristy at her home for several months now, and I can’t understand why she will not go out with me!” My maid then asked, “What did she say when you told her you loved her?”. I told my maid that I had never told Cristy that I loved her. Obviously perplexed, my maid then asked me why I had not told Cristy that I loved her. I truthfully replied that I had not told Cristy that I loved because I did not love her, instead, I “liked” her, and had not known the girl long enough to “love” her.

    I could tell that my maid was really very puzzled now. Her next question was, “Why would you want to see Cristy at all if you don’t love her?” I knew right there that my maid and I reading from completely different sheets of music, so I asked her to enlighten me. That day, I saw the light for the first time. . .

    Among the things my maid told me, and I soon after learned from interrogating Fil guys is the below:

    1. A good girl will not go out with a guy unless the guy is first officially her “boyfriend”.

    2. A girl will not become the girlfriend of a guy, until he courts her Filpino style, with includes formally “proposing” to them. The good news is that the word, “proposal” does not have the same meaning in Filipino English as it does in American English.

    3. “Proposing”in the RP means telling the girl directly that you “love” her, and that you want her to be your “girlfriend”.

    4. The thought process behind this is: No guy would give any girl the time of day unless he “loved” her, and all “love” is love at first sight. This is disputed by none, therefore why would any sincere guy wait weeks, as we do in the West, to announce to a girl that he loves her, and wants her to be his girlfriend?. Any guy who would waits for weeks as we do, to tell a girl that he loves her is obviously a very insincere person. A girl’s thought process would run like this: “Obviously, if the guy REALLY loved me, he would have told me immediately, instead of waiting for several weeks.”

    5. So, here’s how courtship is practiced: A Filipino guy meets a girl whom he lusts for or wants because of what she, “has to show”, (meaning that the guy can materially gain by the relationship). He seldom meets a girl on his own. The culture dictations that a proper girl should be introduced to the guy by a relative or a friend. (If they do not meet this way, they will usually lie about it – fabricating an acceptable story about how they met. Within an hour of the meeting the girl, the guy announces that he “has a crush” on her. At the second or third meeting, he tells the girl that he “loves” her, and wants her to be his girlfriend. From that day forward, the guy begs the girl everyday to be his girlfriend, telling her over and over how much he loves her, how she is the girl of his dreams, that he cannot live without her, that he loves her nose, her voice, her cheeks, her eyes, her ears, her lips, her hair, her throat, her toes, her fingers, her nails, and how beautiful her every feature is etc., etc., etc. He tells her that he cannot live without her, and he may well declare that he will commit suicide if he cannot have her. It is not unusual for a guy to cry in front of the girl in order to show the “true” depth of his “devotion” to her, because it is said that no true Filipina can refuse to say, “Yes” when a guy cries in front of her. (Strangely enough to us, I have seen and heard tell of many, many Filipinas saying, “Yes” to guys they previously had no attraction to once they turn on the waterworks. Some Filipinas feel obligated to do so, and others instantly fall in love with the waterworks. Yes, a Western guy has to wear hip boots when rapping this stuff, and its all very insincere and horribly dramatic, but there is nothing that Filipinas love more than hardcore drama, and they never doubt a word for a moment.

    6. Another part of the RP courtship ritual is for the guy in question to attempt to secure the girl’s interest by making many inflated claims of his family’s supposed wealth, his supposed education, his professional job, etc. Later, when the girl finds out different, no problem at all. The answer of course is that they guy loves her so much that he had to say these things. This makes the girl much happier than if her now boyfriend had told her the truth. Luckily, as a Westerner, you will not have to indulge in much of this, since it is self-evident that you have, “something to show”.

    7. The longer a girl can hold out, without saying, “Yes” to a guy, the more honor she gains. As a rule, a girl who has, “anything to show” (father a professional. holding a college degree herself, family land, a good job, etc.) will hold out longer than average girls with nothing to show. She may take a chance and wait for a bigger fish to come along, despite the common believe in the RP that when a guy courts a girl, it is due to God’s will. God made the guy court her, so he must be the right one. One must never forget that “love” in the RP is deeply entangled with economics. At the same time, since it is universally believed in the RP that females out number males, three to one, and that if a girl is not “married” by the age of 25, she is no longer marriageable, a girl usually takes the first guy who “proposes”. (Actually, among the vast lower class, few couples are actually married in law) By the way, there is a great deal of truth in the assertion that after the age of 25, a girl is no longer in the marriage zone. You see, in a country like the RP, where females greatly outnumber males, why would any guy, regardless of his age, marry an older woman of 26 or so, when he can easily have his pick of girls still in their teens?

    8. Considering the fact that Filipinas have grown up under the influence of soap dramas, and surrounded by role models who know no other formula for romance than that depicted above, they cannot conceive of any other way of courtship. Thus, one cannot hope to deviate far from the formula set forth above, and still meet with any success within the context of good girls. For instance, a guy could tell a Filipina that he deeply cares for her until he was blue in the face, and never once would she even imagine that he was courting her. No other word than “love” has any impact upon her whatsoever. Filipinas fully expect to be courted in the manner explained above, and most would be incredulous to learn that any other method of courtship was practiced elsewhere. To put a finer edge on it, let me say that in my experience, the words, “I like you”, or “I care for you” do not cut it with a normal Filipina. These words have no impact at all upon them. Only the word, “love” registers with them.

    The good news for a Westerner is that the word, “love” does not carry the same meaning for male Filipinos as it does for males in the West. For instance, in the RP, the word “love” incurs no more obligations or responsibilities upon the male that the word “like” or pure “lust” does in the West. To a Fil guy, the word “love” does not infer that, “I will take care of you”, nor that, “I will remain your boyfriend for a year, six months, or even a week”, nor that, “I will come to your assistance if you fall sick”, nor that, “I will keep any of my promises to you.” As Filipino males have often admitted to me, the word “love” equates to the word, “lust” in the West. Nothing more.

    7. The objective is to get the girl between the sheets and impregnate her as soon as possible. This accomplishes one of two important objects for Filipino males, aside from the pleasure of the act itself:

    a. Bragging rights: The more children, by the more different mothers, the more prestige.

    b. Getting a girl pregnant who has something to show, guarantees that her parents will accept him and allow him to marry their daughter, no matter how poor he may be, or how bad his reputation may be. (Example: While I lived in the RP, I was approached by nearly every Fil male I came to know well, asking me to introduce them to a Filipina-American girl attending college there (of which there are many thousands, due to the low cost), so they could impregnate her, and thus obtain a Green Card. They already were aware of their targets, but dared no approach them. They felt that with me, as an a fellow American vouching for them, the Filipino-American girl would trust them.
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    1. +Ronald Mandell, MAJ, USAR not only are there so many options for an expat that he should survey said options before making a decision, the person he “thinks” he knows after 4 months of online, unverified conversation may already be married, with undisclosed kids or simply an opportunistic scammer. a false sense of trust is built online where nothing can be verified, and that’s a bad place to begin from. much better to meet them in person and verify as you go.

  47. 8. Considering the fact that Filipinas have grown up under the influence of soap dramas, and surrounded by role models who know no other formula for romance than that depicted above, they cannot conceive of any other way of courtship. Thus, one cannot hope to deviate far from the formula set forth above, and still meet with any success within the context of good girls. For instance, a guy could tell a Filipina that he deeply cares for her until he was blue in the face, and never once would she even imagine that he was courting her. No other word than “love” has any impact upon her whatsoever. Filipinas fully expect to be courted in the manner explained above, and most would be incredulous to learn that any other method of courtship was practiced elsewhere. To put a finer edge on it, let me say that in my experience, the words, “I like you”, or “I care for you” do not cut it with a normal Filipina. These words have no impact at all upon them. Only the word, “love” registers with them.

    The good news for a Westerner is that the word, “love” does not carry the same meaning for male Filipinos as it does for males in the West. For instance, in the RP, the word “love” incurs no more obligations or responsibilities upon the male that the word “like” or pure “lust” does in the West. To a Fil guy, the word “love” does not infer that, “I will take care of you”, nor that, “I will remain your boyfriend for a year, six months, or even a week”, nor that, “I will come to your assistance if you fall sick”, nor that, “I will keep any of my promises to you.” As Filipino males have often admitted to me, the word “love” equates to the word, “lust” in the West. Nothing more.

    7. The objective is to get the girl between the sheets and impregnate her as soon as possible. This accomplishes one of two important objects for Filipino males, aside from the pleasure of the act itself:

    a. Bragging rights: The more children, by the more different mothers, the more prestige.

    b. Getting a girl pregnant who has something to show, guarantees that her parents will accept him and allow him to marry their daughter, no matter how poor he may be, or how bad his reputation may be. (Example: While I lived in the RP, I was approached by nearly every Fil male I came to know well, asking me to introduce them to a Filipina-American girl attending college there (of which there are many thousands, due to the low cost), so they could impregnate her, and thus obtain a Green Card. They already were aware of their targets, but dared no approach them. They felt that with me, as an a fellow American vouching for them, the Filipino-American girl would trust them.

    8. For her part, once a traditional Filipina says the word, “Yes”, to the guy’s proposal and become his girlfriend, the guy owns her. He can break up with her anytime he pleases without explanation – even the following day, but she, as a true Filipina has no right to break up with him, no matter what she subsequently learns about his character. Therefore he can treat her in any manner that he choses.

    For instance, a typical Fil boyfriend may command the girl to dress in a certain manner from that point onward all day every day, even while in her parent’s home. He will also often tell her that she is forbidden to leave her house unless its in company with himself. Thus she can no longer accompany her mother across the street to the market. He is her master. Thus the culture dictates

    Usually, the very first thing a guy will tell his new girlfriend is to hop into a taxi with him. She has no right to know where they are going. Naturally, the taxi ends up at a cheap motel, where she very willingly goes along with his wishes. Since it is believed that only a “cheap” bad girl likes intimate relations, a typical Filipino guy makes no attempt to please the female. Rather, he is usually quite rough about the whole thing, causing the girl to ever after dislike the ordeal. Also, since guys never use protection in the RP (the more children, the greater his fame), and since Filipinos are much more fertile than Westerners, the girl very often becomes pregnant that very first time. In this case, the guy will generally continue the relationship with her until the child arrives, then disappear to find another girl who does not have sagging breasts, horrible stretch marks, and is not stretched out in the area of pleasure. Due to a chronic lack of nutrition, most Filipinas are much more negatively affected by pregnancy than Western women. (The exception to above scenario of course being when a girl has “something to show”, in which case the pregnancy opens doors for the male).

    There are no child support laws in the RP, and guys are raised to feel absolutely no sense of responsibility for anything they do. Self motivation to support their offspring does not enter a true Filipino male’s mind. Filipino culture dictations that responsibility is the female’s problem.

    9. Unbelievably, during my six years of residence in the RP, I met numbers of Americans and other Westerners who were never able to obtain a “good girl” girlfriend even after years of residence, simply because they had never asked a Filipino guy how courtship is conducted there. A couple even told me that I was “full of it”, when I attempted to explain how courtship was conducted in the RP. After all, they had dated for years in the States, and already knew every thing there was to know about dating and courtship.

    Come to think of it, some of you reading this may also feel that I am “full of it”. After all, you may assert, “Everyone knows that Filipinos are no different than Americans. They think, react and feel the same as we do”. If so, that’s perfectly OK. Live and let live, I say. Just be a gentleman about it. No need to make accusations, and call people names.

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    1. +Ronald Mandell, MAJ, USAR very good observations and conclusions. hard to hear for some people, but the PH is simply NOT like back home. as you mentioned, the same words have different meanings, different values here. even something as simple as a dinner date that went very well was once presumed as an invitation by the filipina to move in with me. the topic was never discussed. but because we had such a good repoire (and her desire for a husband was so high).. the next day she was texting for my address so she could move in. as for the local fiiipino men who (often) do not live up to their responsibilities with children in or out of wedlock, anyone who disagrees with that has not spent time being observant in the PH. it’s just a sad reality backed up by the countless single mothers and fatherless children everywhere one goes in the PH.

  48. I think you pretty much nailed it. Spent a lot of time vacationing in the Philippines and was always amazed by the amount of married women wanting to go out on a date.

    1. @LifeBeyondTheSea – Philippines I just finished your wife’s video on her life story. Your a lucky guy, she has a great heart. Poor beginning, but humble person with a positive attitude. I have traveled all over the world and the Philippines always blew me away with how friendly and happy the people are, despite it being a pretty poor country.

    2. that old saying, “when the cat’s away… “, sadly is so applicable in the PH with many Filipina women whose husbands are out of the PH for a few months. as i see it, these women were not in love with their husband to begin with, or they would stay faithful. but, too many guys rush into marriage with a woman they hardly know and, that is the result.

    1. absolutely. i’m all in favor of spending a year with them to get to know them.. and evaluate if marriage is really your firm decision. however, not all guys can afford to move to the PH for a year due to income issues, which is understandable.

  49. I got Winnie (36) (school teacher) me (55) to the USA ,, WI ,, thanks to Reekay being my best man at wedding ¬†,,, ¬†after over a year to get her visa ,,,, our 2nd Anniversary ¬†is April 27th the 1st we are together ,,,Winnie talks to her sisters and brothers every day online ,, ¬†yes she is 18 years younger but we are happy ,, now she works at a book store and yes guys here are hitting on her but she knows in 5-6 years after she becomes a US Citizen with US passport we will move to Cebu or Dumaguette¬†,, ¬†buy a Dive Resort ,, ¬†have all her family work there as a family ,,, My kids will visit but we will have the resort and me retire there ,, now my wife has many Filipina friends here¬†she talks to a lot and we join with them for party’s ( X-Mas ,, thanks giving , new years and birthdays)

  50. Great synopsis Reekay. Thanks! While in the US, I joined a dating site and met a beautiful, mature 43 year old Filipina who looked like she was in her late 20’s. A few months after we met online, I moved to the Philippines where I saw her for the first time, and she looked even more beautiful than her profile pics! We lived happily together in Cebu City for 2 1/2 years and got along great except for 2 episodes of Tampa that she succumbed to. We were happy and faithful to each other and lived a very harmonious life together.

    I am 13 years older than she is, but I look about 10 years younger than I am so together we look about the same age. I had to leave and go back to the US and she could not get a visa to go with me. She overstayed her US visa by 6 months years ago and got blacklisted. We are still the best of friends and email each other regularly. Thankfully, we never went through any of the problems you speak of in this video. I plan on returning to the Philippines and we both want to get together again. True love really CAN thrive even with a significant age difference, and even when a situation forces you to be separated and halfway around the world from each other.

  51. As always, great video po and really in formative. This is the reason I’m glad my wife was ofw so I didn’t have to entertain those insecurities in my mind.

  52. I honestly appreciate the education, opportunities to make money, freedoms and relative enlightenment being born in the United States has given me. However, the dynamics between men and women SUCKS here! The crazy part is, we as men have basically done it to ourselves! I’ve never seen a culture of men so eager to just give away any power or prestige they may have originally had! I understand wanting to treat people Fair, and equal rights for all. However, we’ve gone overboard and have literally made ourselves nearly unattractive and unneeded by women! To what purpose? How is this help better the world or even the United States?

    1. It all started with the women’s right to vote, around 1920. Been downhill ever since and it’s never going to get better in the west, unfortunately.

  53. Great Advice Reekay! I’ve dated gold diggers here in the USA and from my experience I can spot them a mile away. In order to find a good woman here in the PI, find one that has a job and I’m not talking about a bar girl, I’m talking about an honest job, go to the malls, eatery’s and you will stumble across one eventually. Secondly meet the parents/family because chances are she’s a good one if she comes from a great family…………..when I retire I will be living in the PI for good and not coming back to the USA. Life’s to short, enjoy paradise!

  54. Your information is a must read for any expat thinking of following your footsteps to the Phillipines or any other 3rd world country. If you just changed the names and places, you would be describing Iquitos, Peru, my home for the last 35 years.

  55. If you are living in the states it can be tough. I see the looks and attention my wife gets. Fortunately she is strong and family driven. Find that good Filipina group to become part of. You will enjoy those get together as much as she does. Make sure she is talking with her family back home. They will remind her that she is Filipina and not to embarrass them. Also be nice and get the Filipino channel so she can have a taste of home. Remember it a partnership. You both have to work hard to have a happy loving life.

  56. I found beautiful 22 yo filapina girl, got engaged and did the K1 fiance visa and brought her to the USA and married her in Las Vegas. she immediately fell into contact with local Philapina women who filled her head with ideas that she could do better. so after 1 year she started cheating, and found a younger richer guy. so we got divorced and she moved to Houston.
    I recommend that it is much safer to live in the Philippines rather than bring her to USA.

  57. The Filipina I’m currently communicating with made it clear from the very beginning she doesn’t want to go to America she wants to stay in Camarine Sur on the family farm, live simple and as I receive a modest ssdi income ,and I am only 54 which I consider fairly young and she is 28 it is the life I always wanted in America to “live in the woods” off the grid so to speak, so this is a perfect fit, we met on a reputable dating sight (most of you know which one that would be) and she just appeared out of nowhere and we fit. It’s surprising the common ground between us even with the age gap. So I feel lucky coming by Christmas next year so we have plenty of time to grow and plan.I would NEVER take her to America, women here are why I am coming there no need to expose her to a culture of deception, divorce, and adultery……..

    1. If you haven’t met in person, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. I made a point not to video conference, preferring to text and swap photos. The one I thought was the best fit for me was the first one I met, and we had a wonderful 8 weeks island hopping. She had a contract to work in Germany as a nurse, but wanted to meet me first. If there had not been a connection, I would have contacted the next one on the list. On expat.com forum, a young 28 YO Portuguese guy got burned when he arrived, the girl he came to see went incommunicado, and then refused to see him. Must have found someone else.

  58. Great video. Just got back from my first trip to the Philippines about a week ago to meet my Filipina in person. It went better than I could have imagined. I am planning to move over there, just not exactly sure when. I am also planning another trip over there next year. Thx for the great advice.

  59. You really do have a great channel here. Especially for expats who are contemplating these very issues. I saw everything that you’ve described when I was young and in the navy. They called them west pac widows. Once a guy left on duty the next weekend the Filipino girls at the base club went up exponentially. A guy could get courtmartialed for messing up a guys marriage. I stayed clear of those girls for sure.

    1. When I was in the Navy stationed at JAX, a married filipina was hitting on me at the bowling alley off base. Her poor hubby was deployed at the time. I veered away from that offer as I just couldn’t do that to a fellow sailor. Didn’t know I could get court-martialed.

  60. I believe that if a girl is raised catholic and her mother and father regularly attend mass then if she attends mass and it is a priority to her and she is concerned that her mate will participate in religious activities then your pretty well off to have a woman who doesn’t cheat. If she likes going to the bar. Doesn’t insist on cooking for her man most the time. If she sleeps in and you have to wake her up. If she screams at her kids. If she smokes. Kind of hypocritical because I smoke. If she is flirtatious all the time in front of you maybe not so bad but if you catch her flirting when she thinks no one sees her then all these things are major red flags. If she has a job and still insist on being the housekeeper t huh en she is a keeper. If she starts wanting to split up duties or even thi ks to mention the its “Our” money thing then run like hell. A woman should work and maintain a career and for me if I meet a girl. She can plan on staying with her job. I plan to hire a housekeeper. That way I’m never disappointed

  61. Reekay I’m afraid of everything your saying I don’t know what to do inlove with a filipina want to bring her to the states but afraid this will happe

    1. only you know her well enough, her character. i will say that the less the age-gap, the more the likelihood of success. when there is a high age-gap, western society does everything it can to attack it. it’s not right or fair, but it’s how it is still in this day and age. perhaps you can consider living in the PH, where it is not considered an issue. ?

  62. In all fairness, there are foreigners who go to the Philippines to take advantage of a Filipina and lead her to think they have a chance at a long term relationship when they really just want to have fun on their vacation. It’s about honesty and it boils down to finding out how honest your partner is. It’s probably a good idea to test them in a number of areas before giving them your trust.

  63. One of my best friends in Australia married a Filipina. Took her back to Australia. They have been VERY happily married for 12 years now and have 2 kids. He tells me all the time that marrying her was :”The very best thing he ever did!”

  64. One of your best videos…your speaking the truth here ….saw this alot in the Navy bases, I was stationed in…..they almost always give into temptation… eventually…it’s best to keep them in their home country …

    1. @Reekay’s LifeBeyondTheSea Yes I like by the coast I really like the ocean love the thought of basically swimming every day also some where safe my partners family comes from Ilocos Norte Batac city Dumaguete does look nice as well near the city the water looks great for swimming

    2. it depends on what type of living you want. if you prefer ‘city life’, i’d suggest Cebu or Davao. if you prefer province life, i’d suggest bohol or possibly moalboal. if you want a small-town area near the coast, check out dumaguete or valencia for a more forested environment.

  65. I have been married for 34 years to a Filipina from Manila who I met here in the United States (California), and we have lived here in the US ever since. She is a couple of years older than I am, and was a recent immigrant when I met her.

    I think it is a matter of who your mate is and how you yourself act. I think that Filipinas are more likely to be ‚Äúperpetual virgins‚ÄĚ than American women, yet some others aren‚Äôt so pure. So if you choose the right woman you should be OK even if you live in the US. Well, my Wife is a educated honest person, I never worried about her leaving me for another fellow. It‚Äôs just not like her to do anything like that. Anyhow, being jealous is not very helpful, it is like you don‚Äôt respect your spouse.

    But maybe a big age gap causes trouble if you live here in the states. A close family member is certain that about 18 years ago he/she saw a Filipina acquaintance, who was married to an American guy about 20 years older, and she was at the local shopping mall holding hands with a young fellow there, a tall guapo Hispanic guy. Well, that same woman is still married to her American husband and they have a couple of grown kids. Maybe it was mistaken identity, or maybe that is the only time she did that, who knows? We knew this one young Filipina who married an old American guy, it was widely reported that she cheated on him. I turned out that woman died really young as well. Another really pretty Filipina, not super young, was married to a really old American guy who we never saw, she had a bit of a reputation, she always seemed really close to this Filipino guy at the parties who was about her age, big on going to the clubs etc.

    Of course, here in the US it is more socially acceptable to be married to someone close to your age. Maybe you would not feel like socializing as much if there was a big age gap. You-tuber Steve Montelli put it well saying something like in the US you can only get a much younger woman if you are a billionaire or a rock star. So that is a possibility for Donald Trump or say Richie Blackmore. But we hear that it is quite easy for a older person (such as myself) to get a young Filipina if you go to the Philippines. (believe me, I have not tried it). Anyway I am planning to stick to my now older Filipina.

    My Wife and I always worship at our church together. You know the traditional wedding vows, for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others till death. That is the will of the Lord, it is great if you can follow this. Hey, and after a while you get respect just because you stayed married for a long time !!

    I always hang out with my Wife if we go to parties etc. I think that is helps. Her friends are my my friends. And of course, my Wife has a lot more friends than I have. I try to understand conversations, of course I am not that good at it. Some others, especially the much older fellows, never seem to show their faces.

  66. there is a sucker born every minute. Any American 50 or over who takes his much younger girlfriend to the states and is then surprised that she leaves him is an idiot.

  67. Yes spot on, take the time to know……it comes down to the support of the family/friends network she may already have in your/her home country including your own which she will want to know also ,and around 30 or over for guys in or over that age group.Getting to know her family is very important as this is her life she is leaving or left to go abroard/live to spend the rest of her life with you,the good women are very circumspect much like the good men also,the good woman are not easy prey for the bad men and vice versa

  68. Really enjoy your insightfulness of your videos. Trying to to weigh the pros an cons of becoming an ExPat to the P.I., I’ve served there before. Service connected disability recipient now… Thanks again for your videos

  69. It’s no coincidence that you got so many comments on this video. The American culture is what I will be fleeing when I make my move to the Philippines. Why would anybody in their right mind bring their good woman here? She would only turn into the kind of woman most of us are fleeing. Better to live there.

  70. Hi Reekay. Great video. Based upon the content in your video, how will you handle this situation if you happen to be marrying Vi: since she is 21 as based upon one of your scenarios. Also, based upon your personal experience would you ask for a prenup prior to marriage? This video was an eye opener, because I too am the same age as you would like to get into a serious relationship with a young Filipina and start a new family with. Currently I am still weighing all my options. Just my opinion, thanks for sharing.

  71. I do not worry about bring Ne to the states because of most of the things U said. She is 44 & we have a 20 year age gap. We met on Messenger & she chatted a lot with younger American men but she just prefers older men. I have been here with her over a year & have never dated or been with another Filipino girl or do I want to. She is also very loyal. So I have no problem trusting her. Great Vlog.

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