If you have blue eyes ( maybe brown of some other color ) and white skin you are rich, well that’s what every Filipino thinks anyway. And we sure try hard to reinforce that. What does narely every foreigner do once he arives here in the Philippines including me. He builds the biggest house he can possibly come up with, mine is just about 2000 square feet, this tells everyone he is very rich, they don’t see the fact that this foreigner may have taken his entire life’s savings to build that houes. Then what does he do he buys lots of fancy cloths for his Filipina wife along with a nice SUV. So every Filipino thinks we are rich we convey that to hem, we have so much money we can just give it away and not even be bothered. When in fact most Foreigners here “Kano” we are called, are relatively poor, most are just getting by on a fixed income from their pension or social security. I know one with only a $700 a month pension and he manages to help out his relatives eat and pay his rent month after month. Once you get settled in, sooner or later someone will ask you for money be it a loan usually they ask for a loan or a relative has a medical problem and you are expected to help out. It happens to all of us all the time, vender’s just know you want their product and I do buy a lot of products, 28″ TV, 17,000 watt stereo, t-shirts all sorts of stuff purchased right in my own living room and they just keep coming back, in a way I feel sorry for them and often feel obligated to buy something just to help them out after all they are poor and working hard to improve their situation. One lady almost daily shows up at our home with her kids in hand selling clothing out of a bag. I can’t tell you how much of this stuff I have purchased. The point I am trying to make here is, sooner or later you will encounter some one, a friend, or a relative expecting some monetary help from you. And unless you married into a wealthy family which is unlikely, your Filipino family is likely pretty poor. Also when you marry a Filipina you marry the entire family they are yours and under your wing for protection, and this is decided by them not you. It’s just that way here and there is little you can do except run away with your Filipina to somewhere the relatives do not know of and some do this. Some times this is hard because the Filipino family is a close nit group not like in the US where most relatives barely know what the others are doing. Most Every foreigner who comes here will be asked for money, even if you are married to the best Filippa you could possibly find like my Marianne who never asked me for a dime, but her family are constantly asking for 100 pesos 500 pesos and this goes on daily. Her brother lives in our house with his wife and two kids, so far he does not work, he eats out food and enjoys our home and asks for gas money for his relatives Honda of which he borrows. Marianne’s mom and dad still live here in this house and flat out refuse to leave. Her dad thinks he owns this house one reason he will not leave. There is no real solution to this situation other than simply running away and banning any relatives from coming to your place. I would find this hard to do although I know some that do it. And the reason we lived in Mactan was to escape the relatives Marianne kept our location a secret from them. But now that we are back in Bogo they all know we are here. When I first arrived here in 2004 several of the relatives from Negros Occidental showed up at our door expecting I could send them all to school. We did end up helping some through school. So what do I do now I let Marianne handle all the money issues with the relatives maids and employees of this houe becvause she knows best and does an excellent job then I don’t have to worry. She managed to save so much money she was able to buy the little Suzuki Celerio costing $12,000 she is doing something right.