Being a Single Mother in Japan | ASIAN BOSS

Single mothers face a continuous culture of shame in Japan. For this interview, we meet a single mother who gave birth out of wedlock and is currently working as a model. We get an in-depth look at her struggles with depression and suicide, and how this affected her relationship with her daughter.

Special thanks to Ayano for sharing her story.
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Hiroko (Host)
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104 comments

  1. I cried a little bit watching this video. Even though she is not in the best mental state, her daughter will be able to see a mom who perseveres through that hardship. I think that’s even better than seeing a mom that smiles all the time.

  2. Oh sweetie you’ll never recover from bipolar disorder. I’m 33 and I realized I had it and got diagnosed around 22. I still struggle a lot and go up and down. A mood stabilizer ( lamictal ) is what honestly saved my life though. And I’ve had to try so many anti depressants and anxiety meds but I’ve finally found the correct combination and I’m doing so much better these days. You too will get even better at managing it sweetie. It can be a very isolating condition so my best advice is to try and stay social even if it’s only with a few people. Some of my darkest times was when I shut the world out and almost never spoke to anyone besides the two people in my home. And even with them I went through many times where I barely spoke. Good luck you’re gorgeous 😍

  3. I think it can’t be shouted out enough: You are awesome! The interview was great, I wish all the best for her!

    As someone who as experience with anti-depressants, it is great that she takes care of her mental health, regardless of the social stigma (which is the same in Japan and Austria, apparently…)

  4. DEPRESSION IS THE BIGGEST THREAT IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW. JUST LIKE CORONAVIROUS (COVID-19).
    I SUFFERED WITH DEPRESSION FOR MANY YEARS BUT I WAS NOT ABLE TO TELL ANYONE.
    I LOST MY MARRIED AND LOST 2 JOBS.
    I TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE BUT THE MEDICATION I TOOK DID NOT WORK.
    I WAS FOUND IN MY HOUSE 2 DAYS LATER AND TAKEN TO THE HOSPITAL. THAT SAVED ME.❤🇨🇦
    I WAS DIAGONISED WITH “BIPOLAR DISORDER”.
    I TAKE MEDICATION NOW AND DIVORCED BUT LOOKING.🕭☻.
    I THANK GOD NOW THAT I AM ALIVE.
    HEAR IN CANADA DEPRESSION IS A BIG PROBLEM BETWEEN THE YOUNG AND MATURE PEOPLE.
    THE CANADIAN GOVERNMENT HAS TAKEN “DEPRESSION” VERY SERIOUSLY.
    PEOPLE WITH GOOD JOBS, STUDENTS, RICH AND POOR PEOPLE WE ARE ALL AFFECTED.
    I WISH THE LADY WITH THE YOUNG DAUGHTER ALL THE BEST AND TELL HER TO NEVER EVER GIVE UP.
    “GOD BLESS”.
    (By the way, I am looking for a wife if She is Available). 🕭👌👏❤🇨🇦
    (Kenyan- Canadian living in Canada).

  5. Before she even said it, I figured she had manic depression. I didn’t know it was renamed to bipolar disorder. I thought that was something else. Bipolar people can have normal lives so long as they keep it under control.

    The Korean single dad interviewed on this channel also considered taking his own life 😢

  6. She is beautiful, yes, but her child is another mouth to feed and her bipolar disorder makes her more crazy. Those two major reasons combined (long term) outweigh her looks (short term).

  7. 该方法呢设计了两个模块,分别是10例选择器和关系分类器,最终是类选择器是记忆增强学习思想去设计的实体选择器,选择实例中包含具有强化学习的高质量句子,并将缩减这个句子推送到关系分类器中,呃,并且关系分类器进行聚酯及的预测,并向10例选择器提供相应的反馈奖励啊,并借助联合训练与优化实体选择器和关键分类器的两个过程,听等人则提出了一种基于深度深度宣传学习的楼房源深监督关系分类方法,该方法与方所提出有所区别,那这里不再详细的描述,呃,进行深度学习的方法叫传统的基于特征和基于合作方法有天然的优势远程监督的方法,给我们的数据生存生存方面提供一种有效的帮助,rl和jan,呃,就能够有效的改善远程监督带来的噪声问题,Iongn,但本文本在本文啊。通过将具备相应知识的结构信息通过,将具备先进知识的结构信息通过,将具备先进知识的结构信息通过,将具备经验知识的结构信息通过将具备经验知识的结构信息如句法结构,语法结构等这些,呃,你这个句法结构包括语法结构呢,这是具备相应知识的一个结构信息,融入到深度学习模型中,融入到深度学习的这个模型中,融入到深度学习模型当中,能够进一步的提升效果,因此如何将现行结构与深度学习进行有效的结合,如果将先于结构与具有深度学习进行有效的结合,是当前关系分类问题上研究的热点。

  8. She’s so beautiful….i would take her without 2nd thought….
    I hope she stay strong n healthy…..life is not always beautiful…..we have to overcome the thorns…

  9. Granted that the father of the child is an absolute worst as a husband, though not as bad as the ex-bf afterwards. Did he (baby’s daddy) CHOOSE to abandon his daughter or did she took their daughter away from him? Otherwise, I think that’s also pretty bad for the mommy to not let the father see his daughter. In some cases, that could technically be considered kidnapping as well. A couple can have a bad relationship and that’s a reality of it. But if both father and mother still love their child, they should have shared custody.

  10. unpopular opinion but statistically and empirically true this is as someone fortunate enough to have lived around the world the child of a single parent and a resident of Japan and a former psychological researcher. Firstly Kudos to this woman stepping up this isn’t about her however statistically there is an untrue narrative being pushed about deadbeat fathers and abusive men a small minority of men are painting a negative big picture that is harmful to the future of our species. Single motherhood with the exception of abusive father, death of father, or extenuating circumstance SHOULD be shamed and should not be upheld the government giving aid to single mothers not fitting in these aforementioned categories does harm to the general population. approximately 70-80% of societal dregs ie criminals and druggies and whatever else you can think of are products of single mothers. This doesn’t prove or disprove single fathers can do better or worse there isn’t enough statistical data to draw a conclusion. What we have determined is lack of Fatherhood spirals children into a host of emotional problems and tho many can be high functioning and grow up to be decent members of society there are always scars and tendencies we tend not to be aware of. A single parent household is the biggest irresponsibility and disservice that anyone can give a child. All children deserve both. We have too much data proving how we have ruined the world by making single mothers out to be victims. But the reality is the child is the victim. I can attest that especially in Japan with the way the lack of mother/father dynamics is that the country has taken a huge blow and it needs immediate correction starting with the shaming and following the need for a push for fathers to be in the household even if it means the mother is unhappy and in the case the mother is malevolent enough to be against wanting the mans involvement the child should be relegated to the father.

    1. Absolutely agree with you… Mainstream media now glorifies single mothers. Of course they are brave to shoulder the responsibility of caring for their children alone, but it should not be something to aspire to. Children need both parents.

  11. She is beautiful on the inside and outside, I don’t get the assholes she’s had to deal with, wouldn’t you want to help and support her instead of making her life a misery? these boys she has dated are just immature dogs….

  12. Bipolar disorder is hard, the medical cocktail to balance you emotionally is hard, raising a child is challenging, and with all of those challenges she has overcome. I applaud you! Both of my kids have challenges and I’m a single Dad, so can appreciate you.

  13. She is a real hero, survivor and an inspiration. I have been battling depression for years. It felt worst, crippling and suffocating. It makes your brain to always think the worst of the worst even though it was th simplest event. Every time you try something, it always tell that you are not good enough. It always make you doubt yourself. I makea you to eventually yourself because when you want to move forward, but you still stuck in the darkness.
    Last year, I spent almost 3 months teaching multiple subjects to poor and underprevilage student in an alternative school eventhough my original plan was to meet my dad who lives near the school and commit suicide in front of him. But teaching those students seems to heal my heart. They are eager to learn. Since then, I don’t have any relapse. This year, I try to apply to numerous either contract or permenant job. So far, only one that call for interview and I got a job offer. But my training was delayed to an uncertain date due to lockdown in my country. Wish me luck.

  14. All she needs is some meds, and she will be fine. It is a genetic disease that runs in families.
    So does anyone else in the family have it.
    I am only one in my family not suffering from polar , my mom got knocked up, thank god. That’s how I found out,

  15. The biggest problem I faced was explaining to people why I got a divorce. I am usually asked “was it DV? abuse? Was he drinking? gambling?” No. “Then why?” and I got judged. I couldn’t explain the fact that I couldn’t accept the idea of a sexless marriage or that we simply didn’t see eye to eye anymore about our future without feeling ashamed. We get single parent alimony and so people judge me for taking “the taxpayers’ money” instead of just “sucking it in, or working harder” because it’s supposedly “my choice”. I have serious mental issues and no therapist I’ve been to in Japan understands or knows what to tell me to make me feel better. It has been a horrible journey so far. (4yrs divorced and single)

  16. She’s a very strong woman. I pray that she lives a happy and fulfilling life from now on with her daughter. She obviously does NOT need a man in her life to be happy. My prayers are with you!!!

  17. While this particular case might be unique, single motherhood has to be shamed out of society. Both father and mother have to be shamed. It worked for as long as recorded history. If we don’t, we will have an 80% single mother rate shortly in the West and moving eastward.

  18. As a young girl w mental illness, similar to that of Ayano but not quite, seeing someone make it through all of these difficult things really inspired me 💕

  19. “There are no wrong decisions in life” Well okay then, we just found the cause of all the bad things that have happened in her life! Anyone who believes something so patently stupid is destined to keep making horrible life choices. And yes, I know I will get lots of hate for saying that. Everyone else here will say she should have that printed on a T-shirt and sell such an “inspirational” message.

  20. i cant even imagine who would cheat on her trust me males she a dime in japan and those dont come by the dozen , crazy. i feel really bad for her and this story was super touching. bravo

  21. This woman is GORGEOUS, obviously. Her story is very close to my mother’s as she too was a model with bipolar disease that would cry all day and not be able to care for me. A friend of hers moved in for a couple of years to raise me during this time when nothing was known about mental disorders. Like her, my father could not handle his wife when she became uncontrollable or deeply depressed, so they separated. My mother’s doctor was the hero here as he told her to get a job, so she became a model and having responsibility occupying her mind became much better! My parents got back together again and my mother could now take care of me. In this case, an abusive husband or boyfriend was not the case as my father never hit my mother..ever, he just didn’t understand what was going on that changed his wife. This woman is a roll model and success story to all other women going through the same thing. I admire her and her daughter and hope they do well together. What a great interview by Hiroko, she is a sweetheart. Much Aloha

  22. The best way to get rid of depression is to hang out, surround people with positive attitude, enjoy yourself by traveling or explore other places which you’ve never been before. Laugh, live and love your love ones and make them as your inspiration especially your parents and your daughter/son. Never stay alone to avoid reminiscing your past, always look forward for the future.

    Proud fiance here with my single mom darling. ♥️♥️♥️

  23. Ayana, I am very happy that I watched this interview. I also had difficult years in my life that brought me to the lowest emotional point in my life. I lost myself, self-confidence and I thought that I can’t go lower till I met my now ex-husband who together with his mom managed to bring me to the point zero. Point zero is when you exist and nothing more. You exist because you’re heart is beating, because you’re not dead but that’s it. I left him and it took me another 5 years to come back to the old me … more or less. Sometimes, I have the feeling that my life is a non-stop fight but watching this interview gives me strength. I hope you get well soon. Stay strong. You have the most precious thing in the world – your child. Be happy so she can be happy. When my mom is unhappy, sad I can’t be happy. Because of that I believe that mothers have to be happy for their children because mama is everything for a child. Thank you for giving this interview. Even though I’m not Japanese and I’m not from your culture but it was good to see a strong persona. Thank you.
    And thank you Hiroko for another great interview. Thanks to AsianBoss for great channel and content.

  24. “That incident caused brain shrinkage” and was the cause of bipolar disorder…..ähh what? You are a great and strong women and will raise a beautiful daughter…don`t let stranger tell you that your depression is caused by brain damage (not even from a doctor).

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