Are you obligated to support your Filipina girlfriend or not?


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Are you obligated to support your Filipina girlfriend or not?
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  1. Are you obligated to support your Filipina girlfriend or not?
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  2. Hi Gio, good info as always and well balanced!
    For anyone interested, I am a 70 retired aussie (not rich), and my gf is in her 20’s (extreme age gap!) but we have known each other 3 years and I have visited 7 times and spent time with the family.
    She is a university graduated teacher, but works in a pharmacy 6 days/nights and gets ($US7) 300 pesos a day which is a common salary in province areas. Employers there treat their workers so poorly (that’s a whole other subject!) she lives with her family and I give her a 2,000 peso allowance each week as her father has not been working during pandemic (he is a good guy, but not educated) and she has 3 younger sisters.
    Their living conditions are at the extreme poor end of the spectrum. We talk on video every day, and while they have very little, they always seem happy and laughing most times. The poverty in many areas is heartbreaking. For anyone who has not seen or experienced the lack of basics (eg no flushing toilet (just a hole with a seat), no cooktop, no shower, no door, 5 sleeping side by side in 1 room on a bamboo floor) for much of the population will be left shocked!

  3. In Thailand…. expats are expected to support the 3 beer drinking brothers who are too lazy to work, the mother, father, sister’s and their kids, cousins, and her business which looses money. …oh. oh the family cow died and we really need 4 cows …if you LOVE me, you must pay. Never happy with what an expat does for them nor gives them, they always want more, more, more after they say, “IF YOU REALLY LOVE ME, YOU PAY ME….” . BUT …..they don’t hit up the Thai guys for big money. This ….is called: THAI CULTURE Sorry, it’s BS! Culture does need to be respected ….yet Thais claim “culture” in every issue where they “WANT” something. I’m sure some naive guy will dispute the facts …..yet thee above facts are the opinions & observations of most expats who’ve lived in Thailand for decades.

  4. Speaking of obligations, can you do a video on the income taxes one must pay if living as a U.S. citizen retired in the Philippines? Do they tax social security? How much?

  5. No money, No honey is a 2 way street. If she can’t support herself I’m not interested. I tell them upfront that I’m not financially secure enough to pay salary to the family. Can only help with real emergencies and then only some help.
    Settle the money issue upfront and stick to your plan.

  6. If you have a “Filipina girlfriend” no matter if it’s online or in person, both people need to be upfront. I told my “Filipina girlfriend” from the start I’m not giving any money. She said she isn’t asking for any. I told her one of my goals is to get married. Same with her. She asked me if I had a vasectomy. I said hell no. We talked about how many kids we each wanted. 2 seems to be a reasonable number. Over the months we’ve talked about a lot of things. She would send me tons of pics/short videos of her and her family. Lots of pics of chickens. She would send me pics of her parent’s farm. Valentine’s day I sent her candy in a bouquet style.
    Covid changed everything. She lost her job, etc, etc. Now I can’t go to the Philippines, etc etc. She moved back to the province with her parents. No electricity means no wifi. No wifi means no conversations unless she went into town which was about an hour away. I had to do something.
    So we decided to get her a small 2 room apartment in the town.(somewhere around $100/month rent + utilities) + I also am giving her some money for food, plus travel back and forth to her parents farm. I told her I want a budget from her. I told her to first give me a budget before I do anything. And sure enough, she gave me a line by line item of what she needs. I approved the budget. I told her up front, tho. I am paying for my own housing here, and I am paying for hers. I am not giving any money to her parents. If she gives any of her money or buys her parents food or whatnot, that is her choice, but we are sticking to the budget, nothing more. So far, so good. Total is around $200 USD.
    So the question is, am I being scammed? I don’t believe so. If it is, its a scam moving at the speed of molasses. Later this month will be our 10 monthaversity. If it was a scam, you would think all the hours we spent talking and texting that she would have given up a long time ago.
    I checked her facebook pages, and they seem legit. She put on there that she is in a relationship with me. I went through the friends list, and they all seem legit.
    At this point I see this more as an investment in my (and our) future. Of course, time will tell.
    So to the question, are you obligated to support your Filipina in this era of Covid. My answer is, yes. The key being “your Filipina.”

  7. Hi Gio, i think your words are wise, i personally feel you should give to the the gf and let her pass on to the family. I think giving her accomodation, food etc plus some spending money each month is reasonable.alot of blogs on budgets dont cover this aspect Regards Wayne

  8. Hey Gio, great video, I agree with you if you’re making your girl stop working, you support her and maybe some spending cash for her and her family, if she was sending money to them. However, I want her to work so I can teach her about finance and how to budget her money. I will still be taking care of her, but I’m teaching her to fish so she will always survive. 🙏🏽👍🏽

  9. Hey gio always love your vids.I think xe is better than remediately money transferr.Anyway I am on penalove and use what’s app for free video calls.But the site does have scammers.You have to be cautious.Anyway keep up the good work.

  10. I give my wife 5000 pesos a month spending money to do with whatever she wants. Most of times she never spend it all. If she wants to send some of it to her family that is fine with me but her family has never asked me for anything.

  11. Gio 48% wow that is sad, I am in Australia and our unemployment is now over 10% and I thought that was bad, Covid has changed the world forever and we are now in a recession which hasn’t happened here for decades sad times. I sent a small amount of money to my Girlfriend in Vietnam but only after i had met her also she never asked or expected it. I helped her Family when i was over there but once again they never asked i did it because i wanted to and they showed me a huge amount of appreciation and hospitality they were a lovely hard working Family. Just be smart guys and follow your gut don’t be blinded by her youth and beauty.

  12. Your discussion is completely on-point despite dozens of similar vlogs exist on the subject, it always a timely subject as we know given foreigners seem to lead with their heart and wallet in these relationships often. Common sense, understanding and insuring if you do allocate money to a Filipina that you fully know where its being consumed or spent, I don’t mean be an overbearing ogre but know what you you have got yourself into. Last comment once you start there’s no turning back on the allowance, thanks Gio!

  13. GIO you are right. I met someone from call center and I made a mistake and sent her $100.00 after that she has been asking for money all the excuse and you are know them. She ripped me off $600. I learned my lesson the hard way

  14. Hey gio, I do support my Filipina fiancé she is in nursing school. But her family is self sufficient. They just want me to take care of their daughter.😊😊😊

  15. Why should foreigners always come up with the money. I never ask them for money. I dont mind helping a real gf or wife of course but not the whole family maybe 12 of them. Giving gifts is ok. If you are rich or well to do than May be the family.

  16. Well, I’m sending my girl $500/mo and it seems we always exceed that. It’s going for household fees and basic appliances. Perhaps we should have started out at $400.00? Of course we have met, and pursuing a K-1 Visa.

  17. There are those that say don’t take your Filipina to your country it will change them and they will be more like American girls. From my observations of Expat/Filipina relationships in the Philippines once these Filipinas get the taste of money they can become shopaholics just as easily in their own country….

  18. I had a online Filipina girlfriend we face chatted a few times she was even saying she loved me. One year for Christmas I sent her a couple of shirts by mail from the US and she sent me a shirt as well. the shirts they never got there, it I was really something she gave me her address and I used google maps I saw her house. About a year later I got the presents I sent her back in the mail. I sent her $50 For her birthday she sent me pictures of lots a chocolate bars lol, she got sick with Gerds disease, she never asked me for money she said she had her a job at a call center she would even show me pictures of medical papers, said her savings was running out and she used all her leave time at work. I was suppose to come see her in march but covid broke out we talked for a little bit but she unfriended me on Facebook and don’t talk to me anymore.

  19. I sent 1.5 million pesos to build a house and store. But I send 10k a month since then. I plan on moving there when travel ban is lifted. Before March I send 10k-15k a month before the virus. We plan on getting married.

  20. Honestly, it’s not a big deal and this topic gets way too much attention. I used to worry about it as well but over the years and numerous trips to the Philippines here are a few take-aways… in no particular order.
    1. Treat it like you would with anyone else – Filipinas are no different than any other women. If you don’t give money to your gf in your country why would you give money to your Filipina gf?
    2. Most of the Filipinas that you’ll meet are struggling financially. Any help you can give them is appreciated… but think carefully before you do, because it changes the relationship.
    3. You have to be careful not to create the Sugar Daddy relationship if you don’t want it.
    4. Some Filipinas view it as a business and will try to get men to support them any way they can… and it’s not just foreigners who are giving them money. Some are prostitutes, escorts, mistresses, whatever….it’s pay to play if this is your thing.
    5. The typical relationships we are talking about here are older relatively wealthy foreigners and younger poor Filipinas. Each party has something that the other wants. Be realistic and recognize the reality of the situation.
    6. Realize that people are the same all over…. some are scammers and liars and others are good and decent people. Like attracts like… if you’re a liar and scammer yourself, don’t be surprised if you wind up with someone like you.
    7. It takes time to get to know someone well and build a relationship. If that’s what you want take your time and get to know each other well. That will show you the kind of person you’re dealing with. Obviously if she starts asking for money right away, it’s clear what she’s after.
    8. I have helped a number of Filipinas monetarily over the years and I’m happy to have been able to make their lives better. (BTW – these are only girls I’ve met in person when I’ve been in the Philippines…. its really hard to know otherwise). I’ve also encountered a number of scammers who were just interested in getting money and ended the conversations quickly as I’m not interested in the “pay for play” game.
    9. The bottom line is that it’s not a big mystery. Just use your head (the big one) like you would normally. If you want to pay for online sex, there are lots of girls that will do that. If you want a good gf, that will take time and honesty all around. There are lots of good girls who won’t ask you for money and you may eventually chose to help them as you get to know them and their situations better.

  21. The Bible says something to the effect of “Don’t muzzle a ox while he is grinding your wheat.” The idea is if someone is helping you then they should share in your good fortune. If your girl is cooking, cleaning and taking care of you then she is making your life better and she should get a reward. One hundred to 2 hundred a month, if you can afford it, is not too much to give her. I paid fifty dollars the other day to have a woman clean my house for a few hours, she comes every week. My policy is to help those that help me.

  22. i met a girl online haven’t meet in person yet I send a little money we SKYPE twice a day so I sent her a little money to buy load she never once asked for money so i don”t mind sending a little every now and then

  23. Cash is only one way you can get suckered. Westerners can set up Lazada accounts and buy gifts or “necessities”, they can feel pressured to fill up the giant Balikbayan boxes that ship for like $70 US, shopee accts… the list is endless. You just have to be honest with yourself and and your girlfriend. Set a realistic limit to things and be firm.

  24. Hey Gio, thank you so much for clarifying in this video.. it’s amazing because just yesterday I sent money via Western Union to this one woman that I fell in love with.. we’ve made it official in May.. I’m all the way in New York City and she’s in Manila.. it scared me a bit because of what you said., “if we haven’t met face to face, your encouraging or your suggestion is not to send her money “.. but I trust her and I am in love.. I know she loves me and her trust towards me is growing.. she’s been hurt before so I can’t blame her… I’m in a decent position that I could send her some money. What do you think?

  25. Good info; thanks for sharing. Understand the position of a foreigner visiting his online girlfriend for the first time and wanting to maximize it. However, with the Philippines current job situation, even pre Covid times, I would advice not to ask her to leave her job. Reason is, if the relationship does not work out, she might have a very hard time replacing that job. That situation might make a nice guy stay with a girl he ain’t sure about or even vice-versa. Once both have spend time together and are moving relationship toward cohabitating or marriage then I would be fine with her quitting her job; but not on my 1st trip to meet her.

  26. im 62 yo Aussie she is 45 yo..her parents pased away.i have approval of her 3 sisters n brother to build house on farm and make it a working farm again..hence give us income n grow our own food…..so guys look me up ..ps not good on social media…

  27. With 48% unemployment, I would suspect there is going to be a lot of pressure on ex-pats to support wives/girlfriends and families—-at least until the economy turns around. Are you seeing that in your area?

  28. after 4 months of video chating to my Girl we have never met my girl as yet..but she has never asked me for money so i now have been sending 3000 peso here n there.but soon i will be sending a monthly allowance for food ..she is a good one yes life is a risk..she has 20 acre family farm in kibawi that we will live on and be working ..

  29. While my filipina girlfriend was working in Singapore as an OFW, she supported herself and sent some money to her daughter in the Philippines. But now that she returned back due to the covid pandemic layoffs, I am sending her 5000 pesos while she continues searching for a medical health position in her city. Saw her in Singapore last year and hope to see her in the Philippines next year!

  30. The absolute best video I have ever seen on this subject People & certain stance can be very different. I sent Ne money before I came here 10 months after we met on messenger. She never asked me for a Penney. I had her leave her business & move to Bohol a couple of MOS. before I came here. So, I sent her $s to live on. Her mom & dad have more $ then I do & she has never sent $ to them. I was raised by parents who always said it was their money together. Ne is better with $s then I am so I don’t treat her like a kid & give her an allowance because she is 45 & not a kid. She works to and we share the $s. U R right it isn’t written stone what U should do. What has worked for us might be wrong for someone else. It is not my job to judge what others do.

  31. Gio, I guess that if you are in a serious long term relationship it wouldn’t harm to help out the folks to what’s affordable in your budget if required,,,, the old adage, you take on the girl you take on the family, whether it’s kids or folks, just being decent is helpful. Agree with your advice with setting a limit though, another vid with good advice, cheers mate. PS… What happened to keeping the No2 cut mate? haha :)…

  32. I think it would depend what I thought of her family. If they sat around drunk every time I met them I probably wouldn’t give them shit. If they were hard working, making an effort and struggling to pay school expenses for the children very different. I have no issues helping my girl out financially, I have a huge issue with feeling like the family’s ATM.

  33. What ever you think. It is from many years in this country. You marry her you marry the WHOLE. Family!!! As far as needing are asking you for money it NEVER stops. They have more moves than a Monkey on a Jungle Jim !! You can say no, But she will be sad and Effect your relationship. Then you give and it never , never stops. They never save for a emergency. Your their emergency back up!!!

  34. Depends on the relationship I guess… personally I don’t have a issue supporting her, especially during these tough times. Plus I don’t send with expectations of getting anything in return.

  35. I’ve met her in person so I send at $100 per month with extra for special occasions. But the new extension of the State of Calamity is making it hard to keep hopes of meeting again harder, especially at my age (Over 65). I may have to look elsewhere.
    I just saw that they may also start to require a pre-approved Visa to enter the Philippines, once things get going after September 2021. Is this true?

  36. Good video Gio, that is an important topic, and will generate many different responses. Agree with no money before meeting in person and assessing the girls situation. If the girl is living with her family, you will automatically be supporting them also by default. How much, will depend on what you are comfortable giving, and able to give without begrudgingly doing it. My advice, would be try to start small, because the requirements will certainly grow over a period of time.

  37. If she was living with me I would give her and her family a little money. Especially if she quit her job. But other than that no way. Unless she was a fiancee or wife. Definitely wouldn’t give her money to shop when ever she wants. Sets a bad precedent and I’m poor anyways.

  38. If I am in the Philippines I will gladly support a woman I am living with. I am in Bangkok and I am presently texting Filipino girls that I am interested in. Like a hot potato 90 percent of the girls who are asking me to send them money are dropping me even after telling me that they love me. I don’t use credit cards and I don’t use credit cards so it’s very difficult for me to send money from Thailand.

  39. Gio I completely agree with all of what you said! Great advice!
    I’m married to a financially independent Filipina for about 10 months! I have been in the game for a while. She’s close to the Cebu airport. so cost of living is on the higher side! I visited the Philippines a few times! Stayed months at a time! But with the pandemic = STUCK! (I’m in Canada and she is in Cebu) She never asked for a penny for 2 years! I did a gift from time to time but normal stuff!
    The pandemic killed her business and I had to offer help! She never asked! Cost of living per month for everything (her sister and her) except lodging is 5000 pesos every 2 weeks. They live OK! I do need to supply extra for sporadic buys like a broken fan for example… but Food is OK Gas and electricity gets paid. They have room aircons! The basics where no one is hungry!
    Anything extra I would suggest that it be dealt as a gift!
    The family, in my case, can be toxic so I give gifts of food! I ask my wife to go with them and buy 2000-3000 pesos of food. The toxic ones get no help and I choose to help the good ones!
    I discuss it with my wife! communication is key!

  40. Load okay. But I strongly disagree with the lack of birth control and sending out kids to work and pay for the family. It’s a vicious cycle prohibiting young ones to make their own life. A gift is a gift, I’m ok with that, but not a monthly stipend.

  41. Not sending any money is advisable especially if you haven’t met like you said but the current COVID situation also is something to think about also international travel a lot of uncertainty there

  42. Thanks Gio for the information a lot of people tend to think because they have heard these horror stories about sending money to a girl in the Philippines they think the worst but they’ve got to think it’s everywhere that’s hurting right now and like you said they’re not the kind or at least most of them are not to ask you for something if they really don’t need it but if you go to throwing money at them to start with well of course they’re going to take advantage of it I mean it’s like you said it’s more or less like writing them a blank check you can corrupt anybody as far as that goes and it’s no fault of their own if you more or less write them a blank check from the beginning thanks again for the video take care and God bless

  43. Hi good morning,,I think your right,,, if you date Filipina girl you should know there culture first,,,cause we Filipina our family oriented we always help our family,,I agree with what he said,,,and just don’t give to much,,

  44. Hey Gio good subject !!
    Yes if you haven’t meant her maybe load only. If you have had multiple meetings in the Philippines. Then how much you support her should be decided by the 2 of you. If its a relationship with a future is my thought.

  45. You are a more generous man than most of us. I personally feel its like feeding seagulls at the beach. Once you start giving hard cash to her and her family its never gonna stop. They’ll just see you as a cash cow and keep coming at you with their hands out. I’m happy to buy her meals, frugal gifts or even pay for a trip if I ask her to go. If she is a live in I’m more likely to support her but never hand over cash.

  46. Has a lot to do with her situation before the guy met her. If she had a great job before you met her, and you had her to quit her job, and she supported her family. Then for sure.

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